Not Good at Everything—And That’s the Point

I’ll be honest: spatial reasoning is not my thing. Drop me in a room full of surgeons, engineers, or tech guys talking brackets and angles, and I’ll smile politely while quietly disassociating. My brain just doesn’t speak that language. And you know what? I’ve made peace with that. I’ve tried. Truly. But it’s like trying to enjoy pizza with bananas—impossible, and borderline offensive (especially if you’re half Italian like me).

Still, there was one thing I wanted to do by myself yesterday: mount my monitor stand. I wanted a clear view of the garden without the screen stealing all the sunlight. It took a full-on, stubborn, YouTube-hunting, trial-and-error type of effort—but I did it. Was it groundbreaking? No. Did I feel like Beyoncé afterward? Absolutely.

We All Have Different Superpowers

There’s a reason we’re wired the way we are. Some of us are intuitive feelers, others analytical thinkers, some move through life like symphonies, others like storms. According to psychiatrist William Glasser, our brains reflect unique patterns of connection—and that explains a lot. We’re not meant to be good at everything. We’re meant to lean into our natural strengths, and yes, try and stretch the edges of our comfort zones—but not shame ourselves for not being master-builders or code wizards.

Think of it like a garden. You don’t get mad at lavender for not being a tomato. You water what you’ve got. Nurture the things that grow well in your soil. And when something doesn’t take root? That’s not failure. That’s nature. Try something else. Or, marvel at the fact you even tried.

The DIY lesson: Celebrating Small Victories

That monitor holder gave me more resistance than some life decisions I’ve made. At one point, I was talking to it. Bargaining. Threatening. But there was something inside me that refused to give up—maybe because I needed the win, or maybe because I didn’t want to call Richard for help (again).

When it finally clicked into place after what felt like 37 attempts, I had a proper moment. I looked at that screen, now floating above my desk like a proud little spaceship, and I felt invincible. It wasn’t about the monitor. It was about reclaiming a tiny piece of capability I had started to believe I didn’t have.

These “small” victories? They’re not small. They’re the micro-muscles of confidence. The stuff that builds trust in yourself.

Strength Isn't Always Loud

We live in a world that celebrates big wins—new jobs, product launches, published books. But the quiet victories are just as sacred. Fixing that annoying drawer. Sending that awkward message. Getting out of bed on a hard day. Saying no. Saying yes. Not spiraling after failure. These are the holy moments we forget to honor.

So here’s your reminder: every time you choose effort over giving up, every time you cheer yourself on instead of criticizing, you are growing. No matter how tiny the step, it counts.

Whatever season you’re in—tender, tough, transitional—don’t underestimate the power of small wins. They anchor you. They whisper: “See? You can do hard things.”

Keep going. Keep showing up. You don’t have to do it perfectly, and you definitely don’t have to do it all.

But when you do something that felt hard, even if it’s just getting the damn monitor to stay up—celebrate it. That’s self-worth in action.

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